Many of us have a hard enough time approaching a woman in general.
I am no different when it comes to certain females, areas, types of situations, etc.
Let's keep it real here people if we see an attractive woman in a mall, supermarket, flea market, birthday party, bbq, even at a hospital our attention is drawn away from whatever situation we came there for. At least for a brief moment that is if the idea of approaching her isn't haunting for a little bit too long.
Now imagine us guys/girls that have a foot fetish...
You can multiply that same feeling by 5 times the anxiousness, anxiety, and the need to look at those feet again.
I am speaking from personal and from other foot fetish folks perspective.
It's not the easiest thing to do when it comes to approaching with your foot fetish and at the same time trying not to creep out the other person.
We all have in our heads, " oh my God I'm a stranger to her, she is going to think I'm weird as hell if I say something about her feet. "
If your the type of person that has gotten past this step and gained the confidence to come forth by dropping a suttle compliment then more power to you.
Right now I'm speaking to the people that haven't quite reached that stage.
Although even if you have the confidence but still get caught up over the fact that you can't stop staring at those feet then pay close attention.
Nobody is perfect and you will get turned down at times that's totally normal.
What I am about to share with you comes from a lot of foot models, females without a foot fetish, and years of experience getting shut down for coming off like a creep.
A massive amount of trial and error was put into all of this.
Keep in mind there are no magic words to get a female to like you and be openly acceptable towards your foot fetish or any needs, likes, wants you may have for that matter.
1. CONFIDENCE:
In order to approach any woman, you must have confidence in yourself.
At least make it look like you do even if you can feel butterflies in your stomach.
You ever heard the saying...you miss 100% of the shots you don't take?
It's true.
You won't know what she may say if you don't at least go up and talk to her.
When people say " be yourself " that works to a certain extent.
Be yourself as in don't pretend to be something you're not, however, the better version of yourself so just in case what you say works your first impression will match the rest of the relationship or whatever it is you build with that person.
The last thing you want someone to say to you is " You weren't like this when I first met you, YOU'VE CHANGED. "
No need to pretend because of everything your saying is actually you.
Play the middle with your emotions because women can spot a phony a mile away.
It may work for a little bit until you get around other people with that person then try to keep up that fake persona.
The looks your going to get from the people that actually know you will make the tension in the room very thick because the first thing they will think is " Dude who the hell are you?! ".
So always remember to be yourself I can't stress that enough.
It also makes it easier for you so you're not wasting your time or hers.
Time is something we can't get back so make it count.
So you want to approach her in a way where if she turns you down it's not the end of the world and it's her loss, not yours.
That's the attitude you always want to keep.
That mindset where you have chicks lined up around the corner so it doesn't matter if she takes the bait or not.
Remember no female wants a guy/girl that nobody else wants they can feel that desperate vibe coming at them.
Now I'm not saying to be super cocky and come off like a jerk either.
You don't want to have the cliche dumb jock approach where you're more interested in yourself than her.
Be nice but not where you are taking your jacket off to put over a puddle so she can walk over it type nice.
Think Denzel Washinton, Brad Pitt type smoothness when approaching her just to give you an idea of the balance in emotion you want to have.
2. COMPLIMENT:
Despite how certain alpha males will say do not compliment a female because then you are giving them validation and the upper hand that will not work when it comes to approaching with your foot fetish.
When your foot fetish is involved it's a totally different ball game.
Keep in mind you want to plant the seed of you having an attraction to her feet immediately.
If you come to her with something unrelated to her feet then when you finally bring up anything that involves her feet she will be on the defense.
She will wonder why did this guy just bring up my feet when he was just talking about x, y, z.
Get it in there right away!
The first thing you should be saying is something like this...
" Hey, I like that color nail polish you have on your toes. Is that gel polish? "
OR...
" Those shoes really compliment your pretty toes. I admire that in a woman, what is your name? "
OR...
" I can always appreciate a lady that keeps her toenails done, you can tell a lot about a woman by how she takes care of her feet. " (Wait for her response to introduce yourself then ask her name.)
These are conversation sparkers that you want to immediately establish.
It is showing that you commend her for the way she carries herself and you are interested.
While speaking to her make eye contact but do not stare.
Also, do not stare at her toes the entire time talking to her because it is disrespectful. That is the same equivalent as staring at her breast.
Instead, show her you have self-control, and even though it's killing you inside not to stare at them toes don't do it.
There will be plenty of time and opportunity to do that later once you have developed a foundation.
You want to establish that you have respect for her and you admire the type of person that she is.
Throw in a few jokes here and there but you don't have to be a comedian.
If you can make her laugh that is a great sign.
However, you want her to laugh with you and not at you. There is a difference.
Laughing at you is showing that she does not take you seriously.
When she is laughing with you then you two are sharing a moment.
People don't forget small stuff like that.
She will always remember a sense of feeling good when she first met you.
After you have done all this proceed to get her contact information.
So the next time you two meet up it won't be weird because she already knows you like her feet.
3. KEEP IT MOVING/DON'T GET DISCOURAGED:
Rejection is something nobody wants to go through however it will happen more times than we would like.
The main key to rejection is how you bounce back from it.
Always remember anyone who becomes a master at anything has failed more times than the student has attempted.
There will be females that won't take the bait and completely diss you. Some may even embarrass you if you allow them to.
This is a good thing because it makes sure you are not wasting your time and you find out immediately what you are up against. Instead of someone stringing you along just for you to find out a week later, they were not interested they were just being nice.
You will find out who is interested in your foot fetish by trial and error.
There are no secret words to say in order to get those feet in your lap.
Getting rejected is not always a bad thing it is a learning experience that creates tougher skin.
It won't do you any good by sulking at the first sight of a female not taking in your compliment well because that just means she wasn't the one to receive the awesomeness you have to offer.
Once you find the one that accepts your foot fetish it's not time to celebrate until your sucking toes.
I'm just keeping it all the way real.
The better you implement the techniques above Confidence, Compliment, and Keep It Moving the better you will get at approaching with your foot fetish.
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HERE IS THE VIDEO!
(I no longer have Instagram this video was made when my IG page was still up)
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